Failure is information-we label it failure, but it's more like, 'This didn't work, I'm a problem solver, and I'll try something else.'

The whole point of marriage is to encourage your partner's development and have them encourage yours.

Don't judge. Teach. It's a learning process.

Important achievements require a clear focus, all-out effort, and a bottomless trunk full of strategies. Plus allies in learning.

What can I learn from this? What will I do next time I'm in this situation?

Just because some people can do something with little or no training, it doesn't mean that others can't do it (and sometimes do it even better) with training.

I believe ability can get you to the top,” says coach John Wooden, “but it takes character to keep you there.… It’s so easy to … begin thinking you can just ‘turn it on’ automatically, without proper preparation. It takes real character to keep working as hard or even harder once you’re there. When you read about an athlete or team that wins over and over and over, remind yourself, ‘More than ability, they have character.'