When you enter a mindset, you enter a new world. In one world (the world of fixed traits) success is about proving youโre smart or talented. Validating yourself. In the other (the world of changing qualities) itโs about stretching yourself to learn something new. Developing yourself.
Carol S. DweckItโs for you to decide whether change is right for you right now. Maybe it is, maybe it isnโt. But either way keep the growth mindset in your thoughts then when you bump up against obstacles you can turn to it, it will always be there for you showing you a path into the future.
Carol S. DweckIf parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children donโt have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.
Carol S. DweckI donโt mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel Iโve done as well as I possibly could.
Carol S. DweckWhy waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better? Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them? Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will also challenge you to grow? And why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you? The passion for stretching yourself and sticking to it, even (or especially) when itโs not going well, is the hallmark of the growth mindset. This is the mindset that allows people to thrive during some of the most challenging times in their lives.
Carol S. Dweck