This point is . . . crucial,” writes Dweck. “In the fixed mindset, everything is about the outcome. If you fail — or if you’re not the best — it’s all been wasted. The growth mindset allows people to value what they’re doing regardless of the outcome.

Just because some people can do something with little or no training, it doesn't mean that others can't do it (and sometimes do it even better) with training.

What did you learn today? What mistake did you make that taught you something? What did you try hard at today?

...when people already know they're deficient, they have nothing to lose by trying.

The whole point of marriage is to encourage your partner's development and have them encourage yours.

Failure is information-we label it failure, but it's more like, 'This didn't work, I'm a problem solver, and I'll try something else.'

Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates.