If parents want to give their children a gift, the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning. That way, their children donโt have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.
Carol S. DweckI believe ability can get you to the top,โ says coach John Wooden, โbut it takes character to keep you there.โฆ Itโs so easy to โฆ begin thinking you can just โturn it onโ automatically, without proper preparation. It takes real character to keep working as hard or even harder once youโre there. When you read about an athlete or team that wins over and over and over, remind yourself, โMore than ability, they have character.'
Carol S. DweckJust because some people can do something with little or no training, it doesn't mean that others can't do it (and sometimes do it even better) with training.
Carol S. DweckFor twenty years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value.
Carol S. Dweck