The whole point of marriage is to encourage your partner's development and have them encourage yours.

You’re in charge of your mind. You can help it grow by using it in the right way.

This point is . . . crucial,” writes Dweck. “In the fixed mindset, everything is about the outcome. If you fail — or if you’re not the best — it’s all been wasted. The growth mindset allows people to value what they’re doing regardless of the outcome.

For twenty years, my research has shown that the view you adopt for yourself profoundly affects the way you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you accomplish the things you value.

I don’t mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel I’ve done as well as I possibly could.

In a growth mindset, challenges are exciting rather than threatening. So rather than thinking, oh, I'm going to reveal my weaknesses, you say, wow, here's a chance to grow.

This is hard. This is fun.