Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates.

When you enter a mindset, you enter a new world. In one world (the world of fixed traits) success is about proving you’re smart or talented. Validating yourself. In the other (the world of changing qualities) it’s about stretching yourself to learn something new. Developing yourself.

Choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. There are no problem-free candidates.

Why seek out the tried and true, instead of experiences that will stretch you?

What did you learn today? What mistake did you make that taught you something? What did you try hard at today?

...when people already know they're deficient, they have nothing to lose by trying.

Did I win? Did I lose? Those are the wrong questions. The correct question is: Did I make my best effort?” If so, he says, “You may be outscored but you will never lose.