The sudden death of a partner while expecting a child is so universally understood as awful that I don't think anyone with any other weight to carry is going to get to same kind of sympathy - except perhaps people who lose a child.

All of us assign different values to things, and not all of those values are going to line up with others'.

I'm not a big fan of the white lie.

Relationships are complicated, but happiness in a relationship isn't: It's just wanting exactly what you have. Wanting something else is dispiriting.

I have no quarrel with people who lack the skill or temperament to care for small children.

One way to make tough decisions is to take incremental steps that don't commit you to anything yet.

Almost no one can take on an entire future in one step, much less while reeling emotionally.