I always kind of divided the gay guys I met up into two groups when I first started coming out. There were the guys who thought there was something fundamentally wrong with them and hated themselves and were so burdened with shame and internalized homophobia. It just really paralyzed and shredded them. And then there were guys like me who thought, "I'm fine, everybody else is crazy. My church is sick and the family's crazy, but me? I'm fine."
Dan SavageIf kids got raped at Denny's as often as they get raped at church it would be illegal to take your kids to Denny's.
Dan SavageReally, when it comes to gay rights, there's two wars going on. The first war is political. But the culture war is over.
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