I spent most of my 20s dating older men, and I really wish I had spent that time dating men my own age who were going through the same experiences I was. I totally understand the appeal of a mature, dashing older man over fellow twenty-somethings who are still figuring things out. And, true, a fling with an older man can be instructive in many ways, and no doubt he finds you attractive.

I do feel haunted by some of the letters and the suffering people have endured. But I keep in mind that the people who write to me know that I am a journalist and an on-line advice columnist, not a social service professional.

I've never gotten a letter where I thought I knew the person. But I have heard from people who think they know the letter writer.

Not many people could juggle graduate school and two jobs.

Аs I've mentioned many times, sitting through graduation ceremonies is one of life's drearier milestones.

Love is not shown by giving your toddler a car. It's better demonstrated by clapping as she bangs on pots or singing to her while she plays with her cheap little bath toys in the tub.

I have people close to me who ask my advice just as I ask theirs.