When you're dealing with an in-law violation, I think the first line of defense is for the blood relation to have a serious talk.

I know this is awkward, but when you laugh after almost everything you say, it ends up undermining you.

I'm not a big advocate of living together before marriage. It can be the right thing, but it can also leave two people stuck together who haven't figured out what they really want out of the relationship.

I've never gotten a letter where I thought I knew the person. But I have heard from people who think they know the letter writer.

Anyone who marries gets no guarantee that their partner, no matter what they vow, will always keep that promise.

I think the definition of someone who's still a swinger is a person who remains signed up on swinger websites because they're "humorous." If you'd been married to an alcoholic and found yourself dating someone whose couch cushions were stuffed with empty bottles, you might conclude you're part of the problem and are attracted to men who are going to keep making you miserable in the same oh-so-familiar way. I think you should look to date someone for whom the idea of a swinger website makes him want to slather himself in sanitizing gel.

I try to direct people in distress to the right resources, where they can get comprehensive help. I've heard from many people that simply putting down in a letter what is going on in their lives is therapeutic in and of itself.