What hurts this person is not the occurrence itself, for another person might not feel oppressed by this situation at all. What is hurting this person is the response he or she has uncritically adopted. It is not a demonstration of kindness or friendship to the people we care about to join them in indulging in wrongheaded, negative feelings.

God has entrusted me with myself.

To accuse others for one's own misfortunes is a sign of want of education. To accuse oneself shows that one's education has begun. To accuse neither oneself nor others shows that one's education is complete.

The greater the difficulty the more glory in surmounting it. Skillful pilots gain their reputation from storms and tempests.

It were no slight attainment could we merely fulfil what the nature of man implies.

God has made all men to be happy.

It is unlikely that the good of a snail should reside in its shell: so is it likely that the good of a man should?