I finally know the difference between pleasing and loving, obeying and respecting. It has taken me so many years to be okay with being different, and with being this alive, this intense.

I wake up every day and I think, 'I'm breathing! It's a good day.'

I think we need to teach pleasure. What beautiful touch means. What reciprocity means. What being connected and what intimacy means. Boys get out there at a young age and the performance posturing is so great and ends up being hard and aggressive.

Dance is holy, sexual, and it's a way of being very powerful and a little dangerous without being violent.

I'm a nomad. I have a place in New York in the Flatiron District, and I have a place in Paris in Ile Saint-Louis, and I spend a lot of time in Congo.

My commitment originated in my own story and my own relationship to violence.

I think violence against women in America has become ordinary - it's been made absolutely acceptable.