I think one can advance faster outside a monastery if you use the experiences of daily life to advance yourself.
Frederick LenzAs Buddhist monks, our task is to bring ourselves resolutely more and more into light, to forgive and forget, to forget those who create problems for us because to remember them is only to keep problems is mind.
Frederick LenzThe person who practices advanced meditation is usually not married, some are. They usually don't have children, some do. But chances are they will not marry or have children because it demands to much time.
Frederick Lenz