It's necessary when you follow the path of love to love those around you first. Desire tells us that we should have someone else in our life.
Frederick LenzFocus your attention around the naval area, feel that spot. Visualize it. Do whatever it takes. When thoughts come in and out of your mind, pay no attention. You just stay right on that spot!
Frederick LenzTake a deep breath and exhale slowly. Mentally picture all tiredness, tension, and fatigue leaving you. Visualize that a wave of golden light is entering you at the top of your head and passing throughout your entire body.
Frederick LenzFrom a Buddhist perspective, it is incorrect to always assume that we know what is best.
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