But it's a big ocean. It's an even bigger world. And maybe we've gotten as close as we're supposed to get.
Gayle FormanIt's the same thing that happens when I turn off a really good movie - one that I've lost myself to - which is that I'll be thrown back to my own reality and something hollow will settle in my chest. Sometimes, I'll watch a movie all over again just to recapture that feeling of being inside something real. Which, I know, doesn't make any sense.
Gayle FormanThe politeness was painful. I wanted to push through it, to return to the glow of the night of the concert, but I was unsure of how to get back there.
Gayle FormanYou're just trying on different identities, like everyone in those Shakespeare plays. And the people we pretend at, they're already in us. That's why we pretend them in the first place.
Gayle FormanThe line between true self and feigned self is blurred on all sides. Which I think is a rather handy metaphor for falling in love.
Gayle FormanFirst you inspect me Then you dissect me Then you reject me I wait for the day That you'll resurrect me "Animate
Gayle FormanOne day she told me that they'd decided that my gender was divvied into two neat piles-Men and Guys. Basically, all the saints of the world: Men. The jerks, the players, the wet T-shirt contest aficionados? They were Guys.
Gayle Formanhe kissed me hard. "Promise me. Promise me you'll spend New Year's with me next year," he whispered into my ear.
Gayle FormanI know that all the magic kisses in the world probably couldn't have helped him today. But I would do anything to have been able to give him one.
Gayle FormanI want to ask him where that kitchen is. Where he's from. But he seems guarded. Or maybe it's me. Maybe making friends is a specific skill, and I missed the lesson.
Gayle FormanLosing me will hurt; it will be the kind of pain that won't feel real at first, and when it does, it will take her breath away.
Gayle FormanSometimes fate or life or whatever you want to call it, leaves a door a little open and you walk through it. But sometimes it locks the door and you have to find the key, or pick the lock, or knock the damn thing down. And sometimes, it doesnโt even show you the door, and you have to build it yourself.
Gayle FormanSometimes you can only feel something by its absence. By the empty spaces it leaves behind.
Gayle FormanWillem, I suspect deep down you know exactly why you're here, exactly what you want, but you're unwilling to the wanting, let alone the having. Because both of those propositions are terrifying.
Gayle FormanIn that twisted incestuous way of fate, Mia's a part of our history, and we're among the shards of her legacy.
Gayle FormanYou?' is all I can manage to choke out. 'Always me,' she replies softly, bashfully. 'Who else?
Gayle FormanEven if you find him. Even if he didn't leave you on purpose, he can't possibly live up to the person you've built him into." It's not like the thought hasn't occurred to me. I get that the chances of finding him are small, but the chances of finding him as I remember him are even smaller. But I just keep going back to what my dad always says, about how when you lose something, you have to visualize the last place you had it. And I foundโand then lostโso many things in Paris.
Gayle FormanAnd this is the truth. Because I may be only eighteen, but it already seems pretty obvious that the world is divided into two groups: the doers and the watchers. The people things happen to and the rest of us, who just sort of plod on with things. The Lulus and the Allysons. It never occurred to me that by pretending to be Lulu, I might slip into that other column, even for just a day.
Gayle FormanIโve been feeling something else. Like Iโm about to be sucked into something powerful and painful.
Gayle FormanWhen you make such a large withdrawal of happiness, somewhere you'll have to make an equally large deposit. It all goes back to the universal law of equilibrium.
Gayle FormanAnd our lips. There isn't enough skin, enough spit, enough time, for the lost years that our lips are trying to make up for as they find each other. We kiss. The electric current switches to high. The lights throughout all of Brooklyn must be surging.
Gayle FormanI can keep picking small fights, or brave the big one. Time to screw my courage. Or go down trying.
Gayle FormanI don't know who I am. Or maybe I do know who I am and I just don't want to be her anymore.
Gayle FormanYou talked to me, but you didnโt. I could see you having these two-sided conversations. The things you wanted to say to me. And the words that actually came out.
Gayle FormanEvery morning I wake up and I tell myself this: It's just one day, one twenty-four-hour period to get yourself through. I don't know when exactly I started giving myself this daily pep talk--or why. It sounds like a twelve-step mantra and I'm not in Anything Anonymous, though to read some of the crap they write about me, you'd think I should be. I have the kind of life a lot of people would probably sell a kidney to just experience a bit of. But still, I find the need to remind myself of the temporariness of a day, to reassure myself that I got through yesterday, I'll get through today.
Gayle FormanI force my eyes upward and look at Mia for the first time. She's still beautiful. Not in an obvious Vanessa LeGrande or Bryn Shraeder kind of way. In a quiet way that's always been devastating to me. Her hair, long and dark, is down now, swimming damply against her bare shoulders, which are still milky white and covered with the constellation of freckles that I used to kiss. The scar on her left shoulder, the one that used to be an angry red weld is silvery pink now. Almost like the latest rage in tattoo accessories. Almost pretty.
Gayle FormanSo let's hear another one of your irrational fears. Mia grasped me by the arms and pulled herself in to my chest, like she was burrowing her body into mine. "I'm scared of losing you," she said in the faintest of voices." I pushed her away so I could see her face and kissed the top of her forehead. "I said 'irrational' fears. Because that's not gonna happen.
Gayle FormanWe were both music-obsessed, each in our own way. If we didn't entirely understand the other person's obsession, it didn't matter, because we understood our own.
Gayle FormanI don't really care. I shouldn't have to care. I shouldn't have to work this hard. I realize now that dying is easy. Living is hard.
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