You are lovable, you are loving; your choices about food will reflect that, if you give yourself a chance.

If you think your job is to fix what is broken, you keep finding more broken places to mend.

Awareness, not deprivation, informs what you eat. Presence, not shame, changes how you see yourself and what you rely on.

Chocolate ... is not something you can take or leave, something you like only moderately. You dont like chocolate. You dont even love chocolate. Chocolate is something you have an affair with.

Weight (too much or too little) is a by-product. Weight is what happens when you use food to flatten your life. Even with aching joints, it's not about food. Even with arthritis, diabetes, high blood pressure. It's about your desire to flatten your life. It's about the fact that you've given up without saying so. It's about your belief that it's not possible to live any other way - and you're using food to act that out without ever having to admit it.

We need to build our friendships on truth and wholeness. We need friends who can be with us in our loneliness, not people who will cheer us up so that we don’t feel it. We need friends who get furious with us when we are not being real or true to ourselves, not when we don’t do what they want us to do.

You already have everything you need to be content. Your real work is to do whatever it takes to realize that.