All any feeling wants is to be welcomed with tenderness. It wants room to unfold. It wants to relax and tell its story. It wants to dissolve like a thousand writhing snakes that with a flick of kindness become harmless strands of rope.
Geneen RothIt's not life in the present moment that is intolerable; the pain we are avoiding has already happened. We are living in reverse.
Geneen RothReal change happens bit by bit. It takes great effort to become effortless at anything. There are no quick fixes.
Geneen RothIt's never been true, not anywhere at anytime, that the value of a soul, of a human spirit, is dependent on a number on a scale.
Geneen RothOur work is not to change what you do, but to witness what you do with enough awareness, enough curiosity, enough tenderness that the lies and old decisions upon which the compulsion is based become apparent and fall away. When you no longer believe that eating will save your life when you feel exhausted or overwhelmed or lonely, you will stop. When you believe in yourself more than you believe in food, you will stop using food as if it were your only chance at not falling apart. When the shape of your body no longer matches the shape of your beliefs, the weight disappears.
Geneen Roth