Self-confidence is a terrible, terrible thing; it's also the most attractive thing.

I probably should work harder on relationships, but I don't, and there's not the same kind of imperative as when you have all the right equipment to make a human being together.

While I was doing shitty little bar shows in the Central Valley in 2004, I was being out and helping people realize that gay people aren't monsters, that they are just people. So I look at this world with a great deal of pride, and I'm excited for it.

Deeply in my heart, do I want to believe that there is that special guy that is for me. Yes, absolutely.

I'm just figuring out being able to understand that it's cool for me to date, and have guys be interested in me, and be interested in guys.

The weird thing is when you're a gay guy my age, I spent so much of my life just thinking I was probably never going to date anyone, so now just thinking, "all right, settle down and have a child" seems ridiculous to me.

A nice thing about being 40 is that you're not a kid about your understanding of sex or sexuality anymore.