Many teenagers are tormented by terrors they deem private and personal. They do not know that their anxieties and doubts are universal.
Haim GinottTeenagers crave independence. The more self-suf-ficient we make them feel, the less hostile they are toward us.
Haim GinottI can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration. I can humiliate or heal. In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated and a child humanized or dehumanized.
Haim GinottWhenever I hear about a child needing something, I ask myself, 'Is it what he needs or what he wants?' It isn't always easy to distinguish between the two. A child has many real needs which can and should be satisfied. His wants are a bottomless pit. He wants, for example, to sleep with his parents. He needs to be in his own bed. At Christmas he wants every toy advertised on television. He needs only one or two.
Haim Ginott