The more we seek exclusivity in friendship, the more it becomes obligatory and the less likely it is to fulfill the wonderful vision of what true friendship can be.

Intensity is not the same as intimacy, although we tend to confuse these two words.

The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

There are some things for which there is no apology, and on the question of slavery, there is no adequate apology for ripping people out of their homeland and bringing them here in chains. There is no adequate apology for the ongoing horrific legacy of racism.

My debt to feminism is simply incalculable. Feminism allowed me to see past a 'reality' that I had once taken as a given. It helped me to pay attention to countless voices, my own included, that I had been taught 'don't count.' Feminism allows me to maintain hope.