If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.

Often when someone apologizes - like a parent who says to a child, "I'm very sorry I neglected you when you were a kid" - they also ask, "Do you forgive me?," because they want the other person to be over it. However, healing can take a great deal of time. And if we forgive too quickly, we cut the process short.

It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while.

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

Women are raised to be the nurturers and steadiers of rocked boats, to hold relationships in place as if our lives depended on it. But it shores up your own dignity and integrity if you're able to say, "There are a million things I love about you, and I want our relationship to continue. I forgive you 95 percent, but not this 5 percent."

Being in touch with our bodies, or more accurately, being our bodies, is how we know what is true. Harriet