We'll always be disappointed if we believe that we can plan for a peak experience and make it happen. True joy can't be anticipated or planned. It just strikes.

We all fear change, even as we seek it.

Being in touch with our bodies, or more accurately, being our bodies, is how we know what is true. Harriet

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

Keep in mind that the tendency to be judgmental - toward yourself or another person - is a good barometer of how anxious or stressed out you are. Judging others is simply the flip side of judging yourself.

Intensity is not the same as intimacy, although we tend to confuse these two words.

We commonly confuse closeness with sameness and view intimacy as the merging of two separate I's into one worldview.