We need to hear the sound of our voice for what we think and need.

It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run but, it will never make you less afraid.

Believing that all women should want to be mothers makes about as much sense as believing that all men should want to be engineers.

Being who we are requires that we can talk openly about things that are important to us, that we take a clear position on where we stand on important emotional issues, and that we clarify the limits of what is acceptable and tolerable to us in a relationship.

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

What initially attracts us and what later becomes 'the problem' are usually one and the same.

Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change.