If what we are doing with our anger is not achieving the desired result, it would seem logical to try something different.

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

My debt to feminism is simply incalculable. Feminism allowed me to see past a 'reality' that I had once taken as a given. It helped me to pay attention to countless voices, my own included, that I had been taught 'don't count.' Feminism allows me to maintain hope.

Keep in mind that the tendency to be judgmental - toward yourself or another person - is a good barometer of how anxious or stressed out you are. Judging others is simply the flip side of judging yourself.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Being who we are requires that we can talk openly about things that are important to us, that we take a clear position on where we stand on important emotional issues, and that we clarify the limits of what is acceptable and tolerable to us in a relationship.

It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while.