If you don't have a vision you're going to be stuck in what you know. And the only thing you know is what you've already seen.

Rather than beating yourself up for what you are not doing, appreciate and celebrate the things you are doing. When you shift your focus away from what you do not want, you can create a vision for what you do. Don't fight with yourself - focus on what you do, can do, choose to do, are ready to do.

One thing that prevents a man from being a good father is he hasn't completed being a boy.

When you don't show up as who you are, people fall in love with who you're not. Then when they find out who you are, that's when they leave.

You must be willing to examine and explore your dark side. You must acknowledge how bad you can be and how horribly unloving you can behave. When you know how deep and dark your dark side is, it helps you stand a little taller in the light.

In speaking the truth of your experience to another, it will serve you well to realize that how they choose to respond is not your responsibility.

I think as men begin to see things that address them, they will feel that they can relate. They can't relate to 'Basketball Wives,' 'Housewives of Atlanta.' I am not judging or criticizing those shows at all; what I am saying is the perspective is not necessarily the male perspective. 'Iyanla: Fix My Life' is inclusive of everyone.