Every choice you make supersedes and overrides every other choice you make.

Well the beauty of 'Iyanla: Fix My Life' is that men are in every show. To our surprise, some of the deepest healing demonstrations have been with the men - the sons, the fathers, the husbands - because they agree to participate with the wife or the daughter or whatever it is we are looking at, and it is there.

People you don't love can't hurt you.

Forgiveness leads to a shift in perception. It transforms the hurt into healing.

Life doesn't have to be hard, life is on your side.

Trust is not about being comfortable. It is about being willing to move beyond your comfort zone when there is absolutely no evidence you will be supported. Think of it this way. Trust is based on your ability to stand your ground and rely on your own abilities, knowing that no matter what happens, you will be better off than you were in the beginning.

This is probably one of the most difficult challenges any parent could face - learning to love the other parent enough to make the children first.