You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all.
Iyanla VanzantSome children do what theyโre told to do; some children do what theyโre told not to do; all children do what theyโre parents have done.
Iyanla VanzantWhat do you do when it seems as if people want to stay in their pain. They have a story to tell and they tell you every chance they get. Well, believe it or not, they may like where they are. Our job is to leave them there. You can point the way out of pain, but you cannot force them to get out. You can support the move beyond their limitations, but you cannot make the move for them.
Iyanla VanzantThere is a lot of healing going on. Really! More people are vegetarians, more are in the green movement, more of us are tearing down the old paradigms and embracing same-sex marriage, single motherhood, men raising babies.
Iyanla VanzantIn silence, we have an opportunity to reflect, listen, and gain new insights about ourselves. In silence, we can think, feel, and most important of all, breathe. When you seek guidance, understanding, clarity, or peace of mind, the first step is to master the art of silence and to rethink the value of solitude.
Iyanla Vanzant