There are several different kinds of painful feelings that we might experience, and learning to distinguish and relate to these feelings of discomfort or pain is an important part of meditation practice, because it is one of the very first things that we open to as our practice develops.
Jack KornfieldThe near enemy of love is attachment. Attachment masquerades as love. It says, โI will love this person because I need them.โ Or, โIโll love you if youโll love me back. Iโll love you, but only if you will be the way I want.โ This isnโt love at all - it is attachment - and attachment is rigid, it is very different from love.
Jack Kornfield