The near enemy of love is attachment. Attachment masquerades as love. It says, โI will love this person because I need them.โ Or, โIโll love you if youโll love me back. Iโll love you, but only if you will be the way I want.โ This isnโt love at all - it is attachment - and attachment is rigid, it is very different from love.
Jack KornfieldTaking the one seat describes two related aspects of spiritual work. Outwardly, it means selecting one practice and teacher among all the possibilities, and inwardly, it means having the determination to stick with that practice through whatever difficulties and doubts arise until you have come to true clarity and understanding.
Jack Kornfield