Men are every bit as gendered as women.

Typical news accounts and commentaries about school shootings and rampage killings rarely mention gender.

In corporate culture, in sports culture, in the media, we honor those who win at all costs.

Calling gender violence a women's issue is part of the problem. It gives a lot of men an excuse not to pay attention.

It's a bad thing that happens to women, but when you look at that term 'violence against women,' nobody is doing it to them. It just happens to them. Men aren't even a part of it.

Ben Roethlisberger is a proven winner in athletic competition. But the measure of a true leader is how they conduct themselves 24/7, not just during a winning touchdown drive or a goal-line stance. Leadership isn’t something that gets switched off because the game clock expires.

We need to redefine strength in men, not as the power over other people, but as forces for justice.