The most paradoxical aspect of neurotic shame is that it is the core motivator of the superachieved and the underachieved, the star and the scapegoat, the righteous and the wretched, the powerful and the pathetic.
John BradshawChildren need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not from what they say they do.
John Bradshaw