It's essential to tell the truth at all times. This will reduce life's pain. Lying distorts reality. All forms of distorted thinking must be corrected.

You can't heal what you can't feel!

All these feelings need to be felt. We need to stomp and storm; to sob and cry; to perspire and tremble.

Guilt says I've done something wrong; ... shame says there is something wrong with me. Guilt says I've made a mistake; ... shame says I am a mistake. Guilt says what did was not good; ... shame says I am no good.

To truly be committed to a life of honesty, love and discipline, we must be willing to commit ourselves to reality.

Our sadness is an energy we discharge in order to heal. …Sadness is painful. We try to avoid it. Actually discharging sadness releases the energy involved in our emotional pain. To hold it in is to freeze the pain within us. The therapeutic slogan is that grieving is the ‘healing feeling.’

Children aren't fooled. They know we give time to the things we love.