Recovery begins with embracing our pain and taking the risk to share it with others. We do this by joining a group and talking about our pain.

Hell, in my opinion, is never finding your true self and never living your own life or knowing who you are.

Ego is to the true self what a flashlight is to a spotlight.

Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not from what they say they do.

It is a mark of soulfulness to be present in the here and now. When we are present, we are not fabricating inner movies. We are seeing what is before us.

Since the earliest period of our life was preverbal, everything depended on emotional interaction. Without someone to reflect our emotions, we had no way of knowing who we were.

The most paradoxical aspect of neurotic shame is that it is the core motivator of the superachieved and the underachieved, the star and the scapegoat, the righteous and the wretched, the powerful and the pathetic.