Focus on winning the contest with yourself.
Most of us are referees at heart; we like to call throws and errors on someone else.
No jockey ever won a race by carrying the horse across the finish line; no coach ever won a volleyball match by touching the ball during play.
Less effort in this game makes more results.
If you are serious about volleyball, the only months to stop playing are those without a vowel.
Volleyball rules are simple. If it is on the floor, pick it up and get it into the air. If it is in the air, keep it off the floor.