When a couple gets to the last stage, one or both partners may have an affair. But an affair is usually a symptom of a dying marriage, not the cause. The end of that marriage could have been predicted long before either spouse strayed.

In a good relationship, people get angry, but in a very different way. The Marriage Masters see a problem a bit like a soccer ball. They kick it around. It's 'our' problem.

Admit when you're wrong. Shut up when you're right.

I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.

Gay and lesbian relationships operate on essentially the same principles as heterosexual relationships

You don't have to be interesting. You have to be interested.

Thus, the critical dimension in understanding whether a marriage will work or not, becomes the extent to which the male can accept the influence of the woman he loves and become socialized in emotional communication.