I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.

Bid for connection: Each of our daily interactions with another person.

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt.

We move in response to our conversation partner’s face, and our brain also fires as we move those muscles and stirs the passions. Paralyzing the face is idiotic.

In order to get to a healthier and more productive place, we need to give up our fear of conflict, turmoil and resistance.

In a good relationship, people get angry, but in a very different way. The Marriage Masters see a problem a bit like a soccer ball. They kick it around. It's 'our' problem.

I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.