I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.
John M. GottmanThe Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt.
John M. GottmanIn order to get to a healthier and more productive place, we need to give up our fear of conflict, turmoil and resistance.
John M. GottmanThus, the critical dimension in understanding whether a marriage will work or not, becomes the extent to which the male can accept the influence of the woman he loves and become socialized in emotional communication.
John M. Gottman