Bid for connection: Each of our daily interactions with another person.

The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse predict an ailing marriage: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling and Contempt. The worst of these is contempt.

Admit when you're wrong. Shut up when you're right.

When a couple gets to the last stage, one or both partners may have an affair. But an affair is usually a symptom of a dying marriage, not the cause. The end of that marriage could have been predicted long before either spouse strayed.

We move in response to our conversation partner’s face, and our brain also fires as we move those muscles and stirs the passions. Paralyzing the face is idiotic.

You don't have to be interesting. You have to be interested.

I liken an affair to the shattering of a Waterford crystal vase. You can glue it back together, but it will never be the same again.