Fairness does not consist so much of everybody's doing the same thing, but of everybody's being willing to do something that others don't want to do.
Judith MartinWhen politeness is used to show up other people, it is reclassified as rudeness. Thus it is technically impossible to be too polite.
Judith MartinA lot of men got upset at the feminist movement because they had all the toys and we wanted some.
Judith MartinEtiquette is about all of human social behavior. Behavior is regulated by law when etiquette breaks down or when the stakes are high - violations of life, limb, property and so on. Barring that, etiquette is a little social contract we make that we will restrain some of our more provocative impulses in return for living more or less harmoniously in a community.
Judith Martin