People who hold on to grudges, insist on being right, and try to change other's minds have a difficult time maintaining healthy, happy relationships. Surrendered people easily forgive. They are open to new ideas, and aren't attached to being "right." As a result, people love working and collaborating with them. Others seek them out as mediators and advisers. They are more laid back and relaxed than their rigid counterparts, which makes them highly valued by others.
Judith OrloffStop protesting the hand you've been dealt! Become partners with your life instead of making it an exhausting wrestling match.
Judith OrloffNo matter how well-meaning your intention, doing too much is not always an act of love but of sabotage.
Judith OrloffSurrendered people enjoy life, relish their personal development, and value their friends. They may have an exceptionally good career and be wealthy, but they are more concerned with meaning and fulfillment. The drive to acquire money and power is a behavior that drains people of their passion and emotional connection to others. They can admit when they're wrong.
Judith OrloffSurrendered people understand that they canโt always change a situation, especially when the door is shut. They donโt try to force it open. Instead, they pay attention to their own behavior, look at the situation at hand, and find a new, different, and creative way to get beyond the obstacles. They are comfortable with uncertainty.
Judith Orloff