As I was coming up in business, screwing up was not an option in any form.

The phrases and language used everyday in an organization can in fact affect the way your team makes decisions and conducts themselves.

Buoyancy is a phenomenon whereby, as a leader, you float because the people you inspired believe that you should, because you've truly connected with the collective desires and values of the people you lead.

As a sensitive and highly intuitive person in the command-and-control corporate world, I always felt miscast.

As buoyancy is not contrary to other characteristics of leadership, including decisiveness, accountability and performance standards, I don't ever think it can be self-defeating.

The secret is to be prepared, to draw on the strengths of the people around you, and most importantly, to instill confidence that your team will step up and find a solution.

First, define your credo- the belief system of the organization. Secondly, define your real ambition, or where do you want to go as a collective community.