Extroverts want us to have fun, because they assume we want what they want. And sometimes we do. But "fun" itself is a "bright" word, the kind of word that comes with flashing lights and an exclamation point! One of Merriam-Webster's definitions of "fun" is "violent or excited activity or argument." The very word makes me want to sit in a dimly lit room with lots of pillows-by myself.
Laurie HelgoeWhatever kind of introvert you are, some people will find you 'too much' in some ways and 'not enough' in others.
Laurie HelgoeThough introverts are drained by interaction, we can take immense pleasure in watching the scene around us.
Laurie HelgoeExtroverts are more attuned to social rewards, so they are more likely to flash a smile for effect. A notable exception are introverts - like me - whom I call "socially accessible" introverts. We have been trained well to smile and nod, which can place a burden on our processing efforts.
Laurie Helgoe