If you eat one less candy bar or donut a day, you're doing your body some good.
The bottom line for everyone is I'm not good enough. It's only a thought, and a thought can be changed.
Stop giving your precious energy to things that make you feel bad.
I have learned over the years that the nicest thing I can do is to just say to myself, "Good Morning Darling, I love you; we're going to have a really great day today."
The door to my heart opens inward. I move through forgiveness to love.
If you want to understand your parents more, get them to talk about their own childhood; and if you listen with compassion, you will learn where their fears and rigid patterns come from. Those people who "did all that stuff to you" were just as frightened and scared as you are.