Knowledge of death is the beginning of wisdom.
Reciprocating oral sex is, in general, a very good idea!
Worrying seems like a fairly natural state of being for a parent, so feel free to worry as much as you want.
I'm pretty sure there's no sexuality that justifies constant low-level harassment.
Five-foot-8 is a perfectly normal height for a woman - it's slightly but not at all unusually tall and certainly shouldn't be causing you any torment.
Reconciliation is not possible when one party asks the other to obliterate all signs of their relationship.