To stop challenging someone from using anti-gay language simply because they persist in using anti-gay language strikes me as a defeatist approach.

We are all going to die, sometimes even in the middle of a lease.

If just one person touches you without your permission, stepping back and saying clearly, "Please don't touch me" should get them to stop.

There has to be some kind of personal hygiene bar that a person needs to clear in order for a relationship to be successful.

You are allowed to draw lines even if your feelings are irrational. Part of the marvelous business of being an adult human is that you get to set your own boundaries for whatever reasons you like, without appending a sensible rationale to them.

Reciprocating oral sex is, in general, a very good idea!

I'm of the belief that dating "potential" is almost always an exercise in frustration.