You need to be able to express your resentment and sense of loss in a way that doesn't damage your partner.

You who have suffered so much do not want to be with the kind of person who makes "black widow" jokes to deal with an uncomfortable, painful moment. You should be with a person capable of great compassion and understanding.

If and when you do decide to share your experience with your husband, it should be because you feel ready to do so, not for any other reason.

Some struggling marriages can be salvaged with hard work and counseling; others should be dismantled and stripped for parts.

o one is right when it comes to destination weddings. It’s a big ask, requesting people take time off work and fly off to take a cruise just to see you get married, and they’re perfectly justified in saying no if they don’t have the time, the money, or simply the inclination.

An adult woman should not be so possessive of her own birthday that she begrudges her friends the chance to get married on the same day.

Anyone who thinks it’s funny to name their network "Tom’sHugeEtc" is going to think it’s funny that one of his neighbors is also named Tom and is embarrassed by it.