You need to be able to express your resentment and sense of loss in a way that doesn't damage your partner.

It's OK to tell your partner to objectify you. That's part of the fun of having a partner.

Your partner cannot fault you for refusing to host a perpetual-motion party or for the fact that you must sleep and will eventually die.

I'm of the belief that dating "potential" is almost always an exercise in frustration.

If your wife briefly corrects someone with "Actually, I'm bisexual" during conversation, it hardly sounds like attempting to remain an object of desire to me. If she went around saying, "Actually, I'm still very interested in men, particularly you, you massive dose of sexual charisma," you might have a case.

Don't let a friend make you feel publicly uncomfortable indefinitely just because they're probably a lesbian.

Acting politely in front of someone black and/or gay and then making horrible claims about their intelligence or worth as human beings after they leave the room is not kindness - it's hypocrisy.