If just one person touches you without your permission, stepping back and saying clearly, "Please don't touch me" should get them to stop.

Acting politely in front of someone black and/or gay and then making horrible claims about their intelligence or worth as human beings after they leave the room is not kindness - it's hypocrisy.

You are allowed to draw lines even if your feelings are irrational. Part of the marvelous business of being an adult human is that you get to set your own boundaries for whatever reasons you like, without appending a sensible rationale to them.

You can't prevent a possible future closeness between your upcoming child and one or more of their grandparents.

You may not be able to convince everyone around you that you're doing the right thing, but you don't have to subject yourself to endless second-guessing from others, either.

To stop challenging someone from using anti-gay language simply because they persist in using anti-gay language strikes me as a defeatist approach.

Many fathers go their entire lives without announcing how sexy their son's old girlfriends are.