Don't let a friend make you feel publicly uncomfortable indefinitely just because they're probably a lesbian.

I agree that biphobia is real, but I think it's absolutely worth considering that someone who "despises" having sex with her husband - and men in general - may not be interested in men sexually.

Worrying seems like a fairly natural state of being for a parent, so feel free to worry as much as you want.

Kids know when they're getting yelled at and mocked, I can assure you.

Reconciliation is not possible when one party asks the other to obliterate all signs of their relationship.

As long as you don't think he's just pretending not to mind for your sake, it sounds like he has truly accepted that blow jobs are too difficult and painful for you to perform, and he's still very satisfied with your sex life. Take him at his word.

As you feel increasingly comfortable around your friends, I think it's more than fine to share the basic details of your heroin addiction with them. If they seem receptive, you can feel free to talk about it in further detail; if they seem judgmental or uncomfortable, you can move on to other topics.