A woman who repeatedly asks a man she knows to be gay when he's going to get married and have children is not trying to let sleeping dogs lie.

I agree that biphobia is real, but I think it's absolutely worth considering that someone who "despises" having sex with her husband - and men in general - may not be interested in men sexually.

There has to be some kind of personal hygiene bar that a person needs to clear in order for a relationship to be successful.

I'm pretty sure there's no sexuality that justifies constant low-level harassment.

Worrying seems like a fairly natural state of being for a parent, so feel free to worry as much as you want.

As long as you don't think he's just pretending not to mind for your sake, it sounds like he has truly accepted that blow jobs are too difficult and painful for you to perform, and he's still very satisfied with your sex life. Take him at his word.

It's OK to tell your partner to objectify you. That's part of the fun of having a partner.