Two things distinguish nonviolent actions from violent actions. First, you don't see an enemy and second, your intention is not to make the other side suffer.

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

Empathize, rather than put your "but" in the face of an angry person.

Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.

However impressed we may be with NVC concepts, it is only through practice and application that our lives are transformed.

All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.

There are the two main reasons we don't get our needs met. First, we don't know how to express our needs to begin with and second if we do, we forget to put a clear request after it, or we use vague words like appreciate, listen, recognize, know, be real, and stuff like that.