Relationships don't exist... Relating does.
You will never see what you are capable of, although you must seek to.
Choose who you are in any given moment.
To yourself you are what you think. To the outside world, you are what you do.
We find what we are looking for.
When you are doing what you really love and creating the life that you really want it will be easier to create a healthy personal relationship with someone that will be supportive of what you want too.